I know! It's ludicrous on the face of it. My internet persona is that of a heartless, hard-drinking pedant of apparently indeterminate gender and national origin, and--guess what!--that's not far from the truth. Not a winner, kindness- and sympathy-wise. And yet!
There are people out there who love giving advice, and I'll bet plenty of it is as terrible as mine would be, so you can ask them, and they can be responsible for your choices. I'll have no part in this. Well, maybe:
1. Don't be dumb.
2. Don't be crazy.
That's all I've got.
Plus, unless the person you're worried about splits the difference between Peter Wimsey and Alleyne Edricson, I don't even understand your problem.